In the midst of such a special time in life, whilst everything is changing so quickly, not to mention your body! It’s important to remember and honour your sexual needs. While pregnant sex varies from couple to couple, here’s what we hear most often.
Month 1: Mission Launch
She’s glowing, you’re dazed. You both feel so overwhelmed – how do you stay lustful? It’s time for tenderness – especially if she is experiencing lethargy, nausea and vomiting – they aren’t turn-ons for anyone.
Month 2: Countdown
Her breasts are growing at an alarming rate (yippee? Or whoa??) but the rest of her body has yet to catch up! You’ve begun calculating just how long it’s been. Be patient, indulge in romantic play, massage, mutual masturbation, cuddles!
Month 3: Start Your Engines
Hooray! the morning sickness is beginning to give way to horniness, which may lead to some pretty athletic sex - Yippee.
Month 4: Blastoff
Strap yourself in, her libido is beginning to bloom, and she starts having sex dreams. Most often they don’t include you, but why should you mind if her dreams inspire her to jump you?
Month 5: Decaying Orbit
Oops. The same hormonal rushes that increase sexual desire also provoke mood swings. Expect to be in the doghouse for a variety of transgressions: folding your socks wrong, forgetting to pass the sauce, getting her pregnant in the first place – back to basics – massage, mutual masturbation and lots of cuddles!
Month 6: Fire retro rockets
The obvious presence of a growing third party makes sex … weird. This wasn’t the threesome you had in mind! The idea of harming the baby is frightening. But the cervix is sealed, protecting the foetus from infection, and the amniotic fluid and uterine walls shield the baby from even your most impressive thrusts. Take her lead as to what is comfortable.
Month 7: To the moon
Blood flow really begins to increase where it counts — the same place as when she’s aroused. That spells sexual sensitivity and ORGASM!!! She may experience intense, long-lasting climaxes that sometimes feature equally long-lasting aftershocks.
Month 8: Docking in space
Her size is officially an impediment to sex. Frontal penetration is virtually impossible - Solution: Try new positions. Let your imagination run wild!
Month 9: Touchdown
Everything is set to go and the baby is due any minute now - it’s freak-out time again. (In other words, see Month 1, only without the vomiting.) Oh, and by the way: Say her water breaks at 6 a.m., and by noon she’s still not in active labor. Stimulating her nipples and genitals can help bring on contractions. Warning: Don’t expect her to return the favor.
Postpartum: Re-entry
When she starts to reconnect with her sexuality and gets a green light from her doctor — and, yes, when the baby stops crying for a few minutes — you will rediscover the bedroom (or wherever the baby isn’t). Take things slowly, communicate, don’t forget the TLC and ensure you take time out for just the two of you!
Note: We do not recommend the use of internal sex toys during pregnancy.